Aromantic

Bandung, June 20th 2017

09:00 pm

Hi readers,

on my last blog I wrote about Asexuality, now I’m sharing you about “Aromantic”. Asexuality and Aromantic are different but could be related. Someone who is asexual, maybe not aromantic, but someone who is asexual also could be aromantic. Or someone who is aromantic, maybe not asexual, but someone who is aromantic, could be asexual as well.

Why is this possible to be both? Because as we know from the blog before that Asexuality is someone who doesn’t experience sexual attraction with anybody, and “Aromantic” is someone who doesn’t experience romantic attraction. So, that’s why someone who has no interest for romantic attraction could be not interest for sexual attraction, but it could be no interest for romantic attraction, but interest in sexual attraction. If someone is identified as asexual and aromantic, they are called “ace-aro”.

These are some definitions about Aromantic:

  • A person who is aromantic does not experience romantic attraction. A person who is aromantic does not have to be asexual (a person who does not experience sexualitet attraction), and they might still experience sensual and aesthetic attraction. Example: Sarah is an aromantic bisexual. She feels sexual attraction to two genders, but does not feel romantic attraction.
  • One who lacks interest in or desire for romantic relationships.
  • Not experiencing romantic attraction. Not the same as being asexual, which means experiencing no sexual attraction. Aromantics can still be in a romantic relationship, they just do not experience an attraction towards their parter.
  • Not attracted to anyone in any way. Used by asexuals to differentiate themselves from asexuals who are attracted to people in romantic, but not sexual ways.
  • To have no romantic attraction, not to be asexual, which is no sexual attraction. An aromantic person is not nessicarily asexual. Example: Guy: “Why did José have sex with me but not call me back?”, Girl: (*shrugs*) “Maybe he’s aromantic…?”
  • A person who finds other people to be sexually attractive, but has no romantic feeling toward them.
  • Someone who doesn’t fall in love or loves.

Well readers, by reading those definitions I bet you understand now what aromantic is all about.

The aromantic spectrum

Alloromantic people experience frequent attraction. Everyone else can be considered part of the aromantic (aro) spectrum. This includes aromantic, gray-romantic, lithromantic/akoiromantic, wtfromantic/quoiromantic, and other non-alloromantic orientations. People on the aromantic spectrum experience romantic attraction less frequently, weakly, or in some fundamentally different way than alloromantic people.

Variations of gray-romantic are gray-aromantic, grayromantic, and swapping “gray” for “grey”. The definition of gray-romantic varies. One definition is infrequent attraction; gray-romantic people may only be romantically attracted to a couple or even one person in their lifetime. Another definition is between aromantic and alloromantic. Gray-romantic is sometimes used as an umbrella term for all non-aro, non-allo orientations.

The aro spectrum is not a universally agreed upon concept. Some people with an aro spectrum identity think of themselves as alloromantic. Furthermore, some people consider the idea of an aro spectrum nonsensical since aromanticism itself is total lack of romantic attraction. Both aro spectrum and alloromantic people can be romance-positive, -neutral, or -repulsed. Romance-positive aromantic people may be involved in romantic relationships. Some people consider this appropriation of the aromantic identity.

Arophobia

Arophobia is the fear and hatred of all people who are on the aromantic spectrum and/or express their aromanticism. Arophobia encompases any belief which posits alloromanticism as superior to aromanticism. Arophobia is related to amatonormativity. Elizabeth Brake defined amatonormativity as the following in her book Minimizing Marriage: Marriage, Morality, and the Law:

The assumption that a central, exclusive, amorous relationship is normal for humans, in that it is a universally shared goal, and that such a relationship is normative, in the sense that it should be aimed at in preference to other relationship types.

Some examples of amatornomativity include: pressuring people to pursue romantic relationships; insisting that romantic relationships are superior to all other ones; assuming that people who are not in romantic relationships are miserable; and assuming that everyone wants to end up with a romantic partner. Some examples of arophobia specifically include assuming that aromantic people are lonely, “sociopaths”, damaged, heartless, or hypersexual. Insisting that aromantic people just need to find the “right” person to fall in love with is also arophobic.

 

Queerplatonic relationships

Queerplatonic (or quasiplatonic) are aromantic relationships They are not romantic but nonetheless involve an intense emotional connection beyond or in addition to friendship.

The term like the concept of queering gender, it aims to subvert and question the norms we set out for relationships. People of all orientations and genders can be in (a) queerplatonic relationship(s). Queerplatonic relationships can involve sex (intercourse), but are defined non-romantic attachment.

Aromantic pride

There have been dozens of proposed pride flags. A flag that has existed for some time is the one on National Coalition for Aromantic Visibility’s website, reproduced at the top of the article. The stripes have the following meanings:

The different stripes represent different aspects of aromanticism and our community. Green is for aromantics, who do not naturally experience romantic attachment. Yellow represents romantic friendship, friends with benefits, friendship dating, and queerplatonic relationships. Orange stands for lithromantics, individuals who experience romantic love but do not wish it returned. And finally, the black stripe is for romantics who consciously choose to reject traditional romantic culture.

Symbols for aromantic pride often include arrows. Much like the ace of spades for the asexual (ace) community, “arrow” is a pun on the abbreviation “aro”.

Here is aromantic test you could try:

http://www.allthetests.com/quiz32/quiz/1434229189/Are-you-aromantic

Well readers, thank you so much for reading. Actually I was curious about my ex because he was too cold and has no desire in romantic and sexual. So maybe he is an ace-aro, but I don’t wanna judge him before he gets any psychology test. It was my uncomfortable feeling and suffer while I was with him because he seemed like he had no interest to be with me, or not interested having romantic relationship or anything. But thank God our relationship is over now and I will be more carefull to date any other guy next time.

With Love,

Naomi Indah Sari

Source:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=aromantic

http://sjwiki.org/wiki/Aromanticism#.WUkzeoyGPIU

Related Information:

http://everydayfeminism.com/2016/09/asexual-and-aromantic-matter/

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/aromantics-amelia-tait-322

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Asexuality

Bandung, June 20th 2017

11:00 am

Hi readers, today I wanna share you about asexuality. I got a word “asexuality” was about 5 years ago, actually I forgot where did I get it. But I remember I watched some documenter videos about asexuality on youtube. I’m interested about this topic from several years ago, but I never wrote about it until last time I dated a guy who said that he has no desire for sexuality. Then I thought about it, I analyzed it more from the internet and tested him, and I also watched his action to me, etc. After we dated for several months I found he was cold, cold in sexuality, cold in communication, cold in everything. I felt really suffer because I didn’t feel he loved me or interested on me. Seemed like he was busy with his world and had no desire for being in relationship, and of course I did’t find any quality in our relationship because he talked less and did less. It was my first experience dating with a guy who didn’t have any desire on me and also he couldn’t show his attention or his care to me and to our relationship. So, I felt like I dated a “man doll” with no expression, no desire, no attention, no care and no everything.

Suddenly today I read again about asexuality, and I wanna share to you readers what asexuality is all about. I don’t judge my ex as asexual person, but maybe he is, but of course we need do more valid psychology test to get to know him. But well, just forget it. lol

Right now I wanna share you an article from  http://www.whatisasexuality.com/intro/

Happy reading….

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What Is Asexuality?
Asexuality is a sexual orientation characterized by a persistent lack of sexual attraction toward any gender.

At least 1% of people are believed to be asexual.

Who Is Asexual?
An asexual person (“ace”, for short) is simply someone who does not experience sexual attraction. That’s all there is to it. Aces can be any sex or gender or age or ethnic background or body type, can be rich or poor, can wear any clothing style, and can be any religion or political affiliation.

In short: There is no asexual “type”.

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A Misunderstood Orientation
Many people hear the word “asexual” and make assumptions about what it means. They think of single-celled organisms in a petri dish. They think of a celibate monk on far off mountaintop. They think of a genderless robot from outer space. Asexuality isn’t any of those things.

In particular:

Asexuality is not an abstinence pledge. (Although there may be abstinent aces.)
Asexuality is not a synonym for celibacy. (There are celibate aces and promiscuous aces and aces everywhere in between.)
Asexuality is not a gender identity. (Although there may be trans, non-binary, or genderqueer aces.)
Asexuality is not a disorder. (Although there may be aces with physical or mental conditions.)
Asexuality is not a choice. (Although not every ace is “born that way”.)
Asexuality is not a hormone imbalance. (Although there may be aces with hormone issues.)
Asexuality is not a fear of sex or relationships. (Although there may be aces who are afraid of or otherwise dislike sex or relationships.)

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Attraction, Not Action
Asexuality is a sexual orientation, like homosexuality or heterosexuality. And like being straight or being gay, it’s about what someone feels, not what someone does. Dating, having sex, masturbating, falling in love, getting married, or having children do not conflict with asexuality in any way. There are many reasons why an asexual person might do these things that do not require sexual attraction to be present.

Experiencing arousal or orgasm also do not conflict with asexuality.

Some Do, Some Don’t
Many questions people have about asexuality can be answered with the same phrase: “Some Do, Some Don’t.” Do asexuals date? Some do, some don’t. Do asexuals fall in love? Some do, some don’t. Do asexuals have sex? Some do, some don’t. Do asexuals masturbate? Some do, some don’t. Do asexuals like pepperoni pizza? Some do, some don’t. We are all individuals, with our own individual preferences and personalities, and it is generally impossible to make blanket statements about us.

The Gray Areas
Some people feel that they are “almost asexual” or “asexual with an exception”. That is, they strongly identify with being asexual, except for a few limited or infrequent experiences of sexual attraction. Gray-asexual people fall in between asexuality and non-asexuality. In some cases, they experience sexual attraction only rarely. In others, they’re unsure if they’ve experienced it or don’t feel that they quite fit the definition of asexual in some way. Demisexual people are only capable of feeling sexual attraction after developing a strong emotional bond with someone. Demisexuality and gray-asexuality fall within what’s called the “asexual spectrum”.

The Concept of Love
Along with a sexual orientation, people have what’s called a romantic or affectional orientation that describes who that person might be romantically attracted to. In many people, the sexual and romantic orientations are aligned, so people tend not to think about them being separate concepts. It is not uncommon for asexuals to experience romantic attraction.

Romantic orientations are given names that parallel sexual orientations. For instance, a heteroromantic person is someone who experiences romantic attraction toward a different gender, homoromantic toward the same gender, and so on. A significant number of asexuals also identify as aromantic, which means that they do not experience romantic attraction.

Separating romantic and sexual attraction is not strictly limited to asexual people, however. For instance, it is possible for someone to be an aromantic heterosexual, or any other combination.

How Can I Tell?
If you want to know if you’re asexual, ask yourself the following question: “Do I feel sexual attraction?” If the answer is “No”, you’re asexual. The problem with that question is that “sexual attraction” is a vague phrase. It’s difficult to say that you’ve never felt something, if you don’t know what that something feels like.

If you’re still unsure, here is a list of questions to help guide your thoughts. They’re not meant as a checklist to “diagnose” asexuality, rather, they describe feelings that many asexual people have had.

Are you generally disinterested in sex?
Is your interest in sex more scientific than emotional?
Do you feel left out or confused when others discuss sex?
If you had sex, did you think it was dull or boring, and not the amazing experience other people made it out to be?
Have you ever had to pretend to be interested in someone in order to fit in?
Have you ever felt “broken” because you don’t experience sexual feelings like those around you?
Have you ever felt that you were straight “by default” or that you were bi or pan because you were equally (dis)interested in all genders?
Have you ever gone out with someone or had sex because you felt “that’s what you’re supposed to do?”
If you want to know if someone else is asexual, you have to talk to them about it. There are no outward signs of asexuality, and you shouldn’t attempt to label someone else against their will.

Well readers, I’m also sharing to you the video when David Jay, who is asexual (ace) sharing his struggle for being asexual. David Jay was born in April 24th 1982, he is an American asexual activist. Jay is the founder and webmaster of the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN).

Jay is from St. Louis, Missouri, and he graduated from Crossroads College Preparatory School in 2000. At the age of 15, Jay began considering himself asexual, and he came out as asexual while a student at Wesleyan University in Connecticut.

Frustrated with the lack of resources available regarding asexuality, Jay launched AVEN’s website in 2001. Since then, he has taken a leading role in the asexuality movement, appearing on multiple television shows, and being featured heavily in Arts Engine’s 2011 documentary (A) sexual.

AVEN, which Salon.com referred to as the “unofficial online headquarters” of the asexuality movement, is widely recognised as the largest online asexual community. Its two main goals are to create public acceptance and discussion about asexuality and to facilitate the growth of a large online asexual community. As of June 17, 2013, AVEN has nearly 70,000 registered members.

In New York City, working both with the Department of Education and private organizations, he’s been providing training on Ace inclusion to health educators.

He has a vision for a post-sex world, one that asks all of us to work on building a more empathetic, intimate society that celebrates any kind of close human relationship, whether or not it involves sex.

You also can try this asexual test:

https://lonerwolf.com/asexuality-test/

https://www.proprofs.com/quiz-school/personality/quizshow.php?title=so-you-think-youre-asexual&q=1

http://www.allthetests.com/quiz33/quiz/1468985189/Are-you-asexual

 

 

Thank you so much everyone for reading…

With Love,

Naomi Indah Sari

 

Source:

http://www.whatisasexuality.com/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Jay

 

Related Information:

Glossary — WhatIsAsexuality.com
Asexuality: A Brief Introduction — AsexualityArchive.com
Q & Ace — AsexualityArchive.com
Possible Signs of Asexuality — AsexualityArchive.com
Am I Ace? — WhatIsAsexuality.com

 

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Why does anyone stay single?

Why do women prefer more masculine men during the fertile phase of their menstrual cycle? Why are men more distressed by a partner’s sexual infidelity than their emotional infidelity? And why do female dating profiles advertise beauty, while male dating profiles boast about wealth?
The relatively new field of evolutionary psychology has answered all of these questions, and more. By applying evolutionary theory to the study of human mating behavior, psychologists have revolutionized our understanding of attraction, jealousy, lust, and love.

But surely there’s one question that evolutionary psychology can never answer: Why does anyone stay single?

If natural selection favors individuals who are best able to survive and reproduce, what possible benefit might there be to bowing out of the mating market? For countless generations, our ancestors have successfully reproduced. If evolution has shaped human desire, the prospect of life as a singleton should be as terrifying and impossible as holding your breath for 20 minutes. And yet, for many, remaining single is a conscious lifestyle choice. Why?

76 Reasons to Stay Single
It’s a question that occurred to Menelaos Apostelou, an evolutionary psychologist at the University of Nicosia in Cyprus. To answer it, he gathered together 120 men and women for an in-depth discussion of the reasons why people might stay single. After discarding very similar answers, he had a list of 76 distinct reasons.

Next, Apostelou sent a team of research assistants onto the streets of Cyprus to ask the public how likely each of the 76 reasons might be to cause them to stay single. Some reasons tended to go with others: If someone said they were worried that nobody wanted to be with them, they were also likely to say that they couldn’t find the right person. If they said they didn’t want to lose their freedom, there was a good chance they would also say they like to have their own space. Through these surveys, Apostelou found that the 76 reasons clustered into 15 groups, which in turn clustered into three super-groups, or broad and distinct reasons people choose to stay single:

Super-group 1: freedom of choice included reasons that seemed to be about wanting to flirt, be free, not commit, avoid conflict and constraints, and feeling that one is already doing well without a partner, as well as having different priorities and simply enjoying being alone.

Super-group 2: constraints included reasons relating to sexual dysfunction and other factors that might hold a person back from starting a relationship, such as a health problem, being older, or having children from a previous relationship.

Super-group 3: difficulties with relationships included reasons to do with bad experiences in previous romantic encounters, a lack of trust in others, a fear of change, an unwillingness to compromise, difficulties starting a relationship, and a feeling that one would not be better off with a partner.

Although most people will identify with reasons in each of the three super-groups, people who chose a reason from within one super-group were more likely to choose other reasons from within that same group. This suggests that, at least among Apostelou’s Greek-Cypriot research volunteers, there are three broad reasons why people choose to stay single—because they like to be free to set other priorities, because they feel cannot successfully compete for a partner, and because they find relationships difficult.

An Evolutionary Account
So far, so good. But what does this have to do with evolution? Apostelou’s argument goes like this:

Evolution has selected for ways of thinking and behaving that enhance our reproductive success, or the number of offspring we produce. So we shouldn’t be surprised that humans are motivated to pursue relationships. However, it should be surprising if humans pursued relationships indiscriminately, regardless of the costs.

For example, men with a greater earning potential tend to be more attractive to women. This means it makes less sense for a man to settle down with his high-school sweetheart at 18 than to focus on his education and developing his career, so that he can be more competitive for mates later (although a man with fewer opportunities for advancement might do better to marry young). By the same token, a woman who decides to marry the first man she dates might be making a bad move, but after dating more men, she will be better placed to make an informed decision about the best partner for her.

In both cases, these people would be staying single to exercise freedom of choice, applying reasons from Apostelou’s first super-group, but in a manner that is consistent with evolutionary theory. Staying single can allow you to pursue short-term flings, gain experience evaluating potential matches, and develop yourself to better attract desired partners later.

Now imagine another set of possibilities: If you are ill, it might not be the best time to settle down. You may have a better chance of finding an attractive partner if you wait until your health improves. If you have young kids with an ex-partner, this might make you less attractive to a new partner. In this case, you might decide to invest your energy and resources in your children, instead of a romantic relationship. If you are older, or infertile, you may choose to invest in the children of relatives or in your own grandchildren.

All of these constraints could lead you to reason that it makes more sense to stay single, at least for the time being—and again, your behavior would make sense in light of evolutionary theory.

We’ve seen how reasons for staying single that fit within Apostelou’s first and second super-groups are not incompatible with natural selection. But what about the third super-group  —  difficulties with relationships? Here, Apostelou takes a different tack. He reasons that navigating romantic relationships is a modern phenomenon. For much of human history, men may have secured partnerships with women by simply out-competing other men in physical combat, gorilla-style. Meanwhile, women may have had less choice in their partners, with a loose system of marriages arranged by parents as the norm. Apostelou says:

“In ancestral human environments, individuals would get mates from their parents or by fighting other men, rather than by addressing opposite-sex partners directly. Thus, selection forces had not enough time to augment the capacity of individuals to approach and persuade other individuals to establish an intimate relationship with them.”

In other words, those who stay single because they have trouble flirting, because they are too shy, or because they believe nobody wants to be with them are not operating a shrewd, long-term mating strategy. They are not unconsciously weighing the costs and benefits of settling down now rather than later. Instead, they are suffering the consequences of our species’ rapid development from hunter-gatherers to citizens of modern industrial economies in the (relative) blink of an eye.

In Apostelou’s view, natural selection “wants” these people to find a partner, but human circumstances have changed so quickly that evolution has yet to come up with a solution to these dating woes.
References:

Apostolou, M. (2017). Why people stay single: An evolutionary perspective. Personality and Individual Differences, 111, 263-271.

Open Minded

A recent study examined the difference in outlook between open minded and close minded people.
The study stated that the quality of ‘openness’ has a lot of deciding power on what kind of reality an individual lives in. Most open minded people live in a completely different reality than other people!

Openness is not a set quality. It includes keeping an open mind, trying new things, meeting new people – basically a desire to explore and push the boundaries of what you know and have.

Open minded people are very gregarious. The study, called ‘Seeing it both ways’, was conducted in the Melbourne University. A hundred and twenty three participants of various backgrounds were examined. Their character and views were measured.

The test for open mindedness focused on five categories of personality – conscientiousness, neuroticism, extroversion, agreeableness, and the ability to keep an open mind to new experiences.

They then tested who experienced a visual perception phenomenon called “binocular rivalry.” This phenomenon occurs when each eye is shown a different image, in this case a red patch in one eye and a green patch to another.

Most people switch back and forwards between the two incompatible images, as the brain can only perceive one at a time. But some people merge the two images into a unified red-green patch. Most participants who looked at both patches together were the ones who scored higher on openness!

Researchers theorize that open minded people tend to be more creative. Because these people are fine with keeping their mind open to experiences, learning and perception, they easily create new mental routes inside their head. Therefore, they develop new ideas by connecting things a normal person would not. This finding had been mentioned in an old study from 2015 as well.

Open mindedness, therefore, helps individuals attain higher planes of thought and a calmer resting state.

It literally creates a different structure of reality by introducing new elements inside the picture normal people would not perceive. It broadens the world an individual lives in.

Source:

http://theearthtribe.net/psychological-study-reveals-that-open-minded-people-live-in-a-completely-different-reality/

Trip to Bangkok

Bandung, 13 Juni 2017

03:40pm

Hi readers, kali ini gw mau share tentang perjalanan gw ke Bangkok waktu bulan Juni 2016 lalu. ya ya ya… uda basi I know. Gw beneran baru sempat share nie. ^_^

Waktu itu gw ke Bangkok 4 hari 3 malam cuma Rp 2.500.000 ikutan open trip backpacker. Itu uda termasuk tiket pesawat pp, hotel dan biaya transportasi umum selama di Bangkok, makan beli sendiri, terus masuk tempat wisata bayar lagi sendiri yah. Cukup enjoy, seru dan recommended ikutan agent travel backpacker ini. Selama jalan-jalan di Bangkok kita menggunakan bis umum dan perahu… yuhuuu… seru pokoknya. Ga usah sok tajir kalau mau fun, dinikmati aja. hahahahaa Waktu itu gw lupa yah nama agent backpackernya apa, tapi gw masih save nie nomor hp si bos yang punya. Yang mau dapet info tentang trip yang lagi dibuka sama agent backpacker ini bisa hubungi mas Diansyah (082115838000) atau bisa juga buka websitenya di http://www.liburanonline.com.

Jadi waktu itu gw memutuskan ikut open trip ini sendirian. Gw lobi-lobi beberapa teman tapi ternyata banyak teman gw yang uda pernah ke Thailand, jadi mereka prefer pergi ke tempat lain, sementara gw uda ngidam banget mau liburan ke Thailand. Well, dengan modal nekat dan kepedean langsung daftar lha gw ke http://www.liburanonline.com tersebut. Gw excited banget ke Thailand… yuhuuuu…..

Oh iya, sama si yang punya travel kita digabungin di satu grup open trip. Terus gw iseng cari mangsa alias kenalan sama cewek yang ada di grup itu dengan tujuan biar ada teman janjian waktu di bandara Soe-Ta. Terus yaudah dapet terus kenalan, terus janjian, terus duduk bareng, nunggu bareng, terus terus terus…. ehmm… tar lagi yah gw ceritain.

Selama di Bangkok kita nginep di kawasan Khaosan Road, nama hotelnya Thai Cozy House. Hotel ini lumayan nyaman, di kamar ada AC, kulkas, dan disediain wifi. Ok lha buat backpacker. Nginep di kawasan ini seru banget. Dari hotel kita tinggal jalan kaki ke pusat partyyyy….alias banyak cafe, banyak bar, banyak belanjaan, banyak makanan, banyak yang sexy, banyak yang ganteng. Recommended buat kamu yang suka senang-senang dengan budget backpacker bisa nginep di kawasan Khaosan Road ini. Di kawasan ini banyak banget hotel dan penginapan yang harganya cukup terjangkau. Apalagi buat kalian yang hoby party all night long, disini ok banget buat party. Gw penasaran pengen nyobain party di Khaosan Road, cuma mengingat gw sendirian dan ga punya teman yang bisa diajak party, well… gw urungkan niat. Cari aman, karena takut dikasih drugs, takut diperkosa, takut dibawa kabur, dsb. Well, antisipasi lebih baik. Next time mungkin harus bawa temen biar seru kalau mau mampir lagi ke Khaosan Road. hohhoho

Thai Cozy House. Penginapan yang berada di kawasan Khaosan Road

Di Khaosan Road rame banget pokoknya, yang mau coba belalang crispy, capung crispy, kecoa crispy, semut crispy, ulat crispy, dan binatang-binatang lain yang ga dimakan di Indonesia bisa coba dengan harga 10 bath untuk 1 tusuknya. Oh iya di Thailand itu kebanyakan makanannya ga halal, kalau kalian pakai jilbab biasanya yang jual langsung teriak “pork pork” artinya ada babi, jadi ga usah beli disini. Atau kalau kita ga pakai jilbab, kita bisa tanya “Hallal? Yes or no?” nanti dia kasih kode yes terus kita bisa masuk dan makan disitu. Oh ya yang bikin bingung kalau liburan di Thai, kadang menu makanannya pakai tulisan Thailand yang kita ga bisa baca sama sekali. Terus giliran ditanya ada makanan apa aja, terus mereka jawabnya pakai bahasa Thailand. Whhooooaaaa….bunuh aja gw…bunuh… wkwkwkwkwkwkwwkkw Emosi ceritanya. Well, jadi gitu deh kalau nasib orang backpackeran pasti kan ke tempat-tempat yang tergolong murah dimana orang-orangnya minim bahasa Inggris. Yaudah selamat berbahasa tubuh lha pokoknya yah… hahahahahahhaah

Jajanan Thai yang terdiri dari capung, belalang, kecoa, semut, ulat, dll. Salah satunya bisa ditemukan di kawasan Khaosan Road
Naomi saat mencicipi belalang crispy di Khaosan Road
Tempat makan di kawasan Khaosan Road
Suasana di Khaosan Road
Cafe-cafe di kawasan Khaosan Road

Selain makan belalang crispy, di Khaosan Road gw juga makan ice cream coconut ala Thailand gitu. Lumayan lha enak buat nyemil-nyemil. Lupa harga ice creamnya berapa yah, 25 bath kalau ga salah.

Naomi saat mencicipi Thai Coconut Ice Cream

Terus besoknya kita berkunjung ke Sleeping Buddha Temple atau disebut juga Wat Pho Temple. Di tempat ini ada patung sang Buddha lagi tidur, besar sekali patungnya. Tiket masuk Wat Pho itu 100 bath.

Naomi berfoto disamping patung Sleeping Buddha di Wat Pho temple yang besar banget. Saking besarnya jadi cuma kebagian kepala sang Buddha aja.
Halaman di Wat Pho temple

Setelah dari Wat Pho kita lanjut ke Wat Arun. Di sekitaran Wat Arun kamu bisa belanja souvenir dan bisa sewa baju tradisional Thailand untuk berfoto. Oh iya sewa baju ini hanya untuk berfoto aja, ga bisa dipakai sambil jalan-jalan di Wat Arun yah. heheheh Kebetulan gw ga sewa baju tradisional Thailand, karena harga sewa bajunya 200 bath seinget gw. Ga mahal sih, cuma gw uda fokus mau beli barang yang lucu dan uda niat ga mau boros selama di Bangkok. hehehehehe

Suasana di dalam Wat Arun temple
Seorang Biksu yang sedang melayani di Wat Arun temple
Tempat penyewaan baju tradisional Thailand di kawasan Wat Arun temple

Dari Wat Arun terus kita berkunjung ke Grand Palace. Bagus banget deh di Grand Palace. Kalian wajib berkujung kesini. ^_^

Gerbang luar Grand Palace
Halaman Grand Palace
Gerbang dalam Grand Palace. Untuk dapat masuk ke dalam istana harus membayar sekitar 500 bath.

Oh iya selama di Bangkok gw kemana-mana itu naik angkutan umum seperti bis, menikmati pemandangan sambil naik perahu (transportasi air), terus yang paling seru itu naik Tuk-Tuk. horeeee….. seru banget…. supirnya ngebut banget. Tapi ngebutnya seru kayak di film fast & furious gitu. Penumpangnya dibikin kesenengan dan teriak-teriak abis itu ketawa ngakak sambil teriak “again…again…” (lagi…lagi…)…. aneh…. but ini seriusan seru. hahahahahhaa

Transportasi air di Bangkok
Saat naik Tuk-Tuk di Bangkok

Setelah jalan-jalan keliling temple, besoknya akhirnya kita wisata belanja ke The Platinum Fashion Mall. OMG… OH Uh la la…. ini surga bangeeeeetttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt sist….. murah-murah banget gila….. swear tekewer-kewer. Kalian yang hobi shopping wajib banget liburan ke Bangkok. ajibbbbbbb…… Mulai dari dress yang harganya 150 bath, baju lucu yang harganya 100 bath, sampai bikini-bikini lucu…. uwawww…..
Dari The Platinum Fashion Mall kita ke MBK Center. Di MBK belanja lagi. sok tajir yah… hahahahhahahaha Terus seinget gw sih kita ke Pantip Plaza juga apa gak yah. Lupa deh… pokoknya gw jalan-jalan tapi lupa kadang sama nama tempatnya. Terus yang paling ga boleh dilewatin adalah ASIATIQUE The Riverfront. yuhuuuuu….. seru banget main dan belanja disini. Walau harganya ga semurah di Platinum, tapi ok lha buat cuci mata. Sebenernya harga di Asiatique termasuk standar juga kok kalau menurut gw. Gw beli dompet custom dengan ukiran nama gw donk… yuhuuuu…. seinget gw harganya itu 150 sampai 200 bath deh. Pokoknya kalau dirupiahin cuma 70ribu. Boleh lha yah… Tapi kalau lagi rame, ngantri cuy… ngantri ngukir namanya itu lho. hahahahhahaa Selain itu, kamu juga bisa beli oleh-oleh sabun unik atau disebut dengan Fancy Soap yang bentuknya unik dan fulgar, mulai dari bentuk buah-buahan, bikini, pakaian dalam, hingga berbentuk alat kelamin. 😂 Fancy soap ini biasanya dijual dengan harga 100 bath/3 atau 4 pcs, atau bisa juga dibeli satuan dengan harga 40/50 bath (giliran yang kayak gini kok gw hafal banget yah😅)

Asiatique The Riverfront Bangkok
Suasana di Asiatique The Riverfront Bangkok
Gembok Cinta di Asiatique The Riverfront Bangkok
Dompet custom yang dapat dibeli di Asiatique The Riverfront Bangkok. Kalau ke Bangkok lagi, saya harus beli dompet disini lagi👍
Fancy soaps yang dijual di seluruh pusat oleh-oleh di kota Bangkok. Bentuk sabunnya unik-unik dan sedikit fulgar. Hehehe

Oh iya, kamu bisa tuh cobain bir Thailand yah. Well, sebenernya ini bir biasa aja. Cuma karena gw lagi di Bangkok, yaudah cobain deh. Ini bir ringan banget deh yah. Masa gw ga berasa pusing atau gimana, kayak minum coca cola gitu (*ini antara doyan sama haus ^_^). Rasa bir nya pun jauh banget dari bir Indonesia. Kalau bir bintang, heineken, guinnes kan berasa minum bir kan yah. Ini bir Thailand yang namanya CHANG, sama sekali ga berasa sepet kek, pait kek, apa kek. Biasa aja gitu. No sensasi. Namanya juga coba yah, yaudah yang penting uda tau yah. Tapi aman kok ga bikin mabok (ga tau juga sih, kan gw cuma minum 1 botol) hehehehehe.

Naomi saat mencicipi Chang Beer di kawasan Khaosan Road

Well readers, kayaknya itu aja cerita Naomi selama di Bangkok. Sekedar tips, kalau bisa siapin budget 3jt keatas untuk belanja, karena banyak teman-teman sok ngirit, eh pas di Bangkok semua khilaf pada belanja terus kehabisan bath dan terpaksa narik duit di atm. Narik duit di atm internasional pasti potongannya lumayan yah, jadi mending siapin duit lebih buat jaga-jaga kalau khilaf. Hehehe

Oh iya kalau bisa pelajarin sedikit kata-kata berbahasa Thai untuk membantu komunikasi kita selama disana, karena banyak yang gak bisa bahasa Inggris. Kalau gw waktu itu sempat bingung kalau mau manggil waitress harus sebut apa, kalau di Indonesia kan biasa panggil mas/mba, nah kalau di Thai bingung deh tuh manggilnya gimana. Alhasil gw angkat tangan gw keatas sambil melambai-lambai ke waitressnya (mirip adegan kalau mau jawab soal di kelas…wkwkwkwkwkkkk), atau bisa juga gw harus keluar dari meja dan nyamperin terus colek-colek waitressnya. Hahahahaaaa Terus yang geblek gw sempat sotoy dengan manggil si waitress dengan sebutan “ploy, pai, kim, dsb”, padahal gw juga ga tau itu apaan. wkwkwkwkwkkwkwkwkwkwk Dan apakah kalian pikir mereka nengok dipanggil begitu, kenyataanya tetap tidak nengok yah. hahahahahaa

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Puisi W.S. Rendra

Bandung, 9 Juni 2017

11:15pm

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W.S. Rendra adalah sastrawan Indonesia yang lahir pada tahun 1935 dan meninggal dunia pada tahun 2009. Rendra yang dijuluki sebagai “Burung Merak” ini telah menciptakan banyak karya, baik drama maupun puisi. Karyanya mempunyai kepribadian dan kebebasan sendiri, banyak mendapatkan penghargaan dalam berbagai ajang. Karya-karya Rendra tidak hanya terkenal di dalam negeri, tetapi juga di luar negeri, dan banyak yang telah diterjemahkan ke dalam bahasa asing, di antaranya bahasa Inggris, Belanda, Jerman, Jepang, dan India. Ia pun menonjol dalam membacakan puisi. Tahun 1967 ia mendirikan Bengkel Teater di Yogyakarta, dan memindahkannya ke Depok pada Oktober 1985. Karya Rendra yang dianggap paling baik diantaranya adalah Sajak Sebatang Lisong, dan Sajak Potret Keluarga.

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Berikut ini adalah beberapa karya W.S. Rendra:

 

Pasar Malam Sriwedari, Solo

W.S. Rendra

 

Di tengah lampu aneka warna

Balon mainan bundar-bundar

Rok-rok pesta warna

Dan wajah-wajah tanpa jiwa

Kita jagal sendiri hati kita

Setelah telinga jadi pekak

Dan mulut terlalu banyak tertawa

Dalam dusta yang murah

Dan bujukan yang hampa

Mencubiti pantat wanita

Tidak membuat kita tambah dewasa

Dilindungi bayangan tenda-tenda

Kita menutup malu kita

Dengan kenakalan tanpa guna

Tempat ini sangat bising dan bising sekali

Gong, gendang, gitar dan biola

Terkacau dalam sebuah luka

Ayolah!

Anda sedang menertawakan dunia,

ataukah dunia sedang menertawakan anda?

 

Sajak Sebatang Lisong

W.S. Rendra

Menghisap sebatang lisong
melihat Indonesia Raya,
mendengar 130 juta rakyat,
dan di langit
dua tiga cukong mengangkang,
berak di atas kepala mereka

Matahari terbit.
Fajar tiba.
Dan aku melihat delapan juta kanak-kanak
tanpa pendidikan.

Aku bertanya,
tetapi pertanyaan-pertanyaanku
membentur meja kekuasaan yang macet,
dan papan tulis-papan tulis para pendidik
yang terlepas dari persoalan kehidupan.

Delapan juta kanak-kanak
menghadapi satu jalan panjang,
tanpa pilihan,
tanpa pepohonan,
tanpa dangau persinggahan,
tanpa ada bayangan ujungnya.

Menghisap udara
yang disemprot deodorant,
aku melihat sarjana-sarjana menganggur
berpeluh di jalan raya;
aku melihat wanita bunting
antri uang pensiun.

Dan di langit;
para tekhnokrat berkata :

bahwa bangsa kita adalah malas,
bahwa bangsa mesti dibangun;
mesti di-up-grade
disesuaikan dengan teknologi yang diimpor

Gunung-gunung menjulang.
Langit pesta warna di dalam senjakala
Dan aku melihat
protes-protes yang terpendam,
terhimpit di bawah tilam.

Aku bertanya,
tetapi pertanyaanku
membentur jidat penyair-penyair salon,
yang bersajak tentang anggur dan rembulan,
sementara ketidakadilan terjadi di sampingnya
dan delapan juta kanak-kanak tanpa pendidikan
termangu-mangu di kaki dewi kesenian.

Bunga-bunga bangsa tahun depan
berkunang-kunang pandang matanya,
di bawah iklan berlampu neon,
Berjuta-juta harapan ibu dan bapak
menjadi gemalau suara yang kacau,
menjadi karang di bawah muka samudra.

Kita harus berhenti membeli rumus-rumus asing.
Diktat-diktat hanya boleh memberi metode,
tetapi kita sendiri mesti merumuskan keadaan.
Kita mesti keluar ke jalan raya,
keluar ke desa-desa,
mencatat sendiri semua gejala,
dan menghayati persoalan yang nyata.

Inilah sajakku
Pamflet masa darurat.
Apakah artinya kesenian,
bila terpisah dari derita lingkungan.
Apakah artinya berpikir,
bila terpisah dari masalah kehidupan.

 

Sajak Potret Keluarga

W.S. Rendra

Tanggal lima belas tahun rembulan.
Wajah molek bersolek di angkasa.
Kemarau dingin jalan berdebu.
Ular yang lewat dipagut naga.
Burung tekukur terpisah dari sarangnya.
Kepada rekannya berkatalah suami itu :
“Semuanya akan beres. Pasti beres.
Mengeluhkan keadaan tak ada gunanya.
Kesukaran selalu ada.
Itulah namanya kehidupan.
Apa yang kita punya sudah lumayan.
Asal keluarga sudah terjaga,
rumah dan mobil juga ada,
apalagi yang diruwetkan ?
Anak-anak dengan tertib aku sekolahkan.
Yang putri di SLA, yang putra mahasiswa.
Di rumah ada TV, anggrek,
air conditioning, dan juga agama.
Inilah kesejahteraan yang harus dibina.
Kita mesti santai.
Hanya orang edan sengaja mencari kesukaran.
Memprotes keadaaan, tidak membawa perubahan.
Salah-salah malah hilang jabatan.

Tanggal lima belas tahun rembulan
Angin kemarau tergantung di blimbing berkembang.
Malam disambut suara halus dalam rumputan.
Anjing menjenguk keranjang sampah.
Kucing berjalan di bubungan atap.
Dan ketonggeng menunggu di bawah batu.

Istri itu duduk di muka kaca dan berkata :
“Hari-hari mengalir seperti sungai arak.
Udara penuh asap candu.
Tak ada yang jelas di dalam kehidupan.
Peristiwa melayang-layang bagaikan bayangan.
Tak ada yang bisa diambil pegangan.
Suamiku asyik dengan mobilnya
padahal hidupnya penuh utang.
Semakin kaya semakin banyak pula utangnya.
Uang sekolah anak-anak selalu lambat dibayar.
Ya, Tuhan, apa yang terjadi pada anak-anakku.
Apakah jaminan pendidikannya ?
Ah, Suamiku !
Dahulu ketika remaja hidupnya sederhana,
pikirannya jelas pula.
Tetapi kini serba tidak kebenaran.
Setiap barang membuatnya brengsek.
Padahal harganya mahal semua.
TV Selalu dibongkar.
Gambar yang sudah jelas juga masih dibenar-benarkan.
Akhirnya tertidur…….
Sementara TV-nya membuat kegaduhan.
Tak ada lagi yang bisa menghiburnya.
Gampang marah soal mobil
Gampang pula kambuh bludreknya
Makanan dengan cermat dijaga
malahan kena sakit gula.
Akulah yang selalu kena luapan.
Ia marah karena tak berdaya.
Ia menyembunyikan kegagalam.
Ia hanyut di dalam kemajuan zaman.
Tidak gagah. Tidak berdaya melawannya.

Tanggal lima belas tahun rembulan.
Tujuh unggas tidur di pohon nangka
Sedang di tanah ular mencari mangsa.
Berdesir-desir bunyi kali dikejauhan.
Di tebing yang landai tidurlah buaya.
Di antara batu-batu dua ketam bersenggama.

Sang Putri yang di SLA, berkata :
“Kawinilah aku. Buat aku mengandung.
Bawalah aku pergi. Jadikanlah aku babu.
Aku membenci duniaku ini.
Semuanya serba salah, setiap orang gampang marah.
Ayah gampang marah lantaran mobil dan TV
Ibu gampang marah lantaran tak berani marah kepada ayah.
Suasana tegang di dalam rumah
meskipun rapi perabotannya.
Aku yakin keluargaku mencintaiku.
Tetapi semuanya ini untuk apa?
Untuk apa hidup keluargaku ini?
Apakah ayah hidup untuk mobil dan TV?
Apakah ibu hidup karena tak punya pilihan?
Dan aku ? Apa jadinya aku nanti?
Tiga belas tahun aku belajar di sekolah.
Tetapi belum juga mampu berdiri sendiri.
Untuk apakah kehidupan kami ini?
Untuk makan? Untuk baca komik?
Untuk apa?
Akhirnya mendorong untuk tidak berbuat apa-apa!
Kemacetan mencengkeram hidup kami.
Kekasihku, temanilah aku merampok Bank.
Pujaanku, suntikkan morpin ini ke urat darah di tetekku

Tanggal lima belas tahun rembulan.
Atap-atap rumah nampak jelas bentuknya
di bawah cahaya bulan.
Sumur yang sunyi menonjol di bawah dahan.
Akar bambu bercahaya pospor.
Kelelawar terbang menyambar-nyambar.
Seekor kadal menangkap belalang.
Sang Putra, yang mahasiswa, menulis surat dimejanya :
Ayah dan ibu yang terhormat,
aku pergi meninggalkan rumah ini.
Cinta kasih cukup aku dapatkan.
Tetapi aku menolak cara hidup ayah dan ibu.
Ya, aku menolak untuk mendewakan harta.
Aku menolak untuk mengejar kemewahan,
tetapi kehilangan kesejahteraan.
Bahkan kemewahan yang ayah punya
tidak juga berarti kemakmuran.
Ayah berkata : “santai, santai!“
tetapi sebenarnya ayah hanyut
dibawa arus jorok keadaan
Ayah hanya punya kelas,
tetapi tidak punya kehormatan.
Kenapa ayah berhak mendapatkan kemewahan yang sekarang ayah miliki ini?
Hasil dari bekerja? Bekerja apa?
Apakah produksi dan jasa seorang birokrat yang korupsi?
Seorang petani lebih produktif daripada ayah.
Seorang buruh lebih punya jasa yang nyata.
Ayah hanya bisa membuat peraturan.
Ayah hanya bisa tunduk pada atasan.
Ayah hanya bisa mendukung peraturan yang memisahkan rakyat dari penguasa.
Ayah tidak produktif melainkan destruktif.
Namun toh ayah mendapat gaji besar!
Apakah ayah pernah memprotes ketidakadilan?
tidak pernah, bukan?
Terlalu beresiko, bukan?
Apakah aku harus mencontoh ayah?
Sikap hidup ayah adalah pendidikan buruk bagi jiwaku.
Ayah dan ibu, selamat tinggal.
Daya hidupku menolak untuk tidak berdaya.

 

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Naomi Indah Sari

 

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Puisi Chairil Anwar

Bandung, 9 Juni 2017

11:00pm

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Hi readers, kali ini saya mau share karya-karyanya Chairil Anwar. Chairil Anwar lahir tahun 1922 dan meninggal di tahun 1949, ia dijuluki sebagai “Si Binatang Jalang” dari karyanya yang berjudul “Aku” (oh iya, karya Chairil yang berjudul “Aku” ini sempat booming lagi setelah tenarnya film Ada Apa Dengan Cinta lho). Chairil adalah penyair terkemuka Indonesia. Ia diperkirakan telah menulis 96 karya, termasuk 70 puisi. Bersama Asrul Sani dan Rivai Apin, ia dinobatkan oleh H.B Jassin sebagai pelopor Angkatan ’45 sekaligus pelopor puisi modern Indonesia. Puisinya membahas berbagai tema, mulai dari pemberontakan, kematian, individualisme, dan eksistensialisme, hingga tak jarang bermakna multi interpretasi.

Berikut ini adalah beberapa karya Chairil Anwar:

 

Persetujuan Dengan Bung Karno

Chairil Anwar

 

Ayo! Bung Karno kasi tangan mari kita bikin janji

Aku sudah cukup lama dengan bicaramu

Dipanggang diatas apimu

Digarami lautmu

Dari mulai tanggal 17 Agustus 1945

Aku melangkah ke depan berada rapat di sisimu

Aku sekarang api

Aku sekarang laut

Bung Karno! Kau dan aku satu zat, satu urat

Di zatmu. di zatku, kapal-kapal kita berlayar

Di uratmu, di uratku, kapal-kapal kita bertolak dan berlabuh

 

AKU

Chairil Anwar

 

Kalau sampai waktuku

Ku mau tak seorang kan merayu

Tidak juga kau

Tak perlu sedu sedan itu

Aku ini binatang jalang

Dari kumpulannya terbuang

Biar peluru menembus kulitku

Aku tetap meradang menerjang

Luka dan bisa kubawa berlari

Berlari

Hingga hilang pedih peri

Dan aku akan lebih tidak perduli

Aku mau hidup seribu tahun lagi

 

Thank you for reading…^_^

With Love,

Naomi Indah Sari

 

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