Asexuality

Bandung, June 20th 2017

11:00 am

Hi readers, today I wanna share you about asexuality. I got a word “asexuality” was about 5 years ago, actually I forgot where did I get it. But I remember I watched some documenter videos about asexuality on youtube. I’m interested about this topic from several years ago, but I never wrote about it until last time I dated a guy who said that he has no desire for sexuality. Then I thought about it, I analyzed it more from the internet and tested him, and I also watched his action to me, etc. After we dated for several months I found he was cold, cold in sexuality, cold in communication, cold in everything. I felt really suffer because I didn’t feel he loved me or interested on me. Seemed like he was busy with his world and had no desire for being in relationship, and of course I did’t find any quality in our relationship because he talked less and did less. It was my first experience dating with a guy who didn’t have any desire on me and also he couldn’t show his attention or his care to me and to our relationship. So, I felt like I dated a “man doll” with no expression, no desire, no attention, no care and no everything.

Suddenly today I read again about asexuality, and I wanna share to you readers what asexuality is all about. I don’t judge my ex as asexual person, but maybe he is, but of course we need do more valid psychology test to get to know him. But well, just forget it. lol

Right now I wanna share you an article from  http://www.whatisasexuality.com/intro/

Happy reading….

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What Is Asexuality?
Asexuality is a sexual orientation characterized by a persistent lack of sexual attraction toward any gender.

At least 1% of people are believed to be asexual.

Who Is Asexual?
An asexual person (“ace”, for short) is simply someone who does not experience sexual attraction. That’s all there is to it. Aces can be any sex or gender or age or ethnic background or body type, can be rich or poor, can wear any clothing style, and can be any religion or political affiliation.

In short: There is no asexual “type”.

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A Misunderstood Orientation
Many people hear the word “asexual” and make assumptions about what it means. They think of single-celled organisms in a petri dish. They think of a celibate monk on far off mountaintop. They think of a genderless robot from outer space. Asexuality isn’t any of those things.

In particular:

Asexuality is not an abstinence pledge. (Although there may be abstinent aces.)
Asexuality is not a synonym for celibacy. (There are celibate aces and promiscuous aces and aces everywhere in between.)
Asexuality is not a gender identity. (Although there may be trans, non-binary, or genderqueer aces.)
Asexuality is not a disorder. (Although there may be aces with physical or mental conditions.)
Asexuality is not a choice. (Although not every ace is “born that way”.)
Asexuality is not a hormone imbalance. (Although there may be aces with hormone issues.)
Asexuality is not a fear of sex or relationships. (Although there may be aces who are afraid of or otherwise dislike sex or relationships.)

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Attraction, Not Action
Asexuality is a sexual orientation, like homosexuality or heterosexuality. And like being straight or being gay, it’s about what someone feels, not what someone does. Dating, having sex, masturbating, falling in love, getting married, or having children do not conflict with asexuality in any way. There are many reasons why an asexual person might do these things that do not require sexual attraction to be present.

Experiencing arousal or orgasm also do not conflict with asexuality.

Some Do, Some Don’t
Many questions people have about asexuality can be answered with the same phrase: “Some Do, Some Don’t.” Do asexuals date? Some do, some don’t. Do asexuals fall in love? Some do, some don’t. Do asexuals have sex? Some do, some don’t. Do asexuals masturbate? Some do, some don’t. Do asexuals like pepperoni pizza? Some do, some don’t. We are all individuals, with our own individual preferences and personalities, and it is generally impossible to make blanket statements about us.

The Gray Areas
Some people feel that they are “almost asexual” or “asexual with an exception”. That is, they strongly identify with being asexual, except for a few limited or infrequent experiences of sexual attraction. Gray-asexual people fall in between asexuality and non-asexuality. In some cases, they experience sexual attraction only rarely. In others, they’re unsure if they’ve experienced it or don’t feel that they quite fit the definition of asexual in some way. Demisexual people are only capable of feeling sexual attraction after developing a strong emotional bond with someone. Demisexuality and gray-asexuality fall within what’s called the “asexual spectrum”.

The Concept of Love
Along with a sexual orientation, people have what’s called a romantic or affectional orientation that describes who that person might be romantically attracted to. In many people, the sexual and romantic orientations are aligned, so people tend not to think about them being separate concepts. It is not uncommon for asexuals to experience romantic attraction.

Romantic orientations are given names that parallel sexual orientations. For instance, a heteroromantic person is someone who experiences romantic attraction toward a different gender, homoromantic toward the same gender, and so on. A significant number of asexuals also identify as aromantic, which means that they do not experience romantic attraction.

Separating romantic and sexual attraction is not strictly limited to asexual people, however. For instance, it is possible for someone to be an aromantic heterosexual, or any other combination.

How Can I Tell?
If you want to know if you’re asexual, ask yourself the following question: “Do I feel sexual attraction?” If the answer is “No”, you’re asexual. The problem with that question is that “sexual attraction” is a vague phrase. It’s difficult to say that you’ve never felt something, if you don’t know what that something feels like.

If you’re still unsure, here is a list of questions to help guide your thoughts. They’re not meant as a checklist to “diagnose” asexuality, rather, they describe feelings that many asexual people have had.

Are you generally disinterested in sex?
Is your interest in sex more scientific than emotional?
Do you feel left out or confused when others discuss sex?
If you had sex, did you think it was dull or boring, and not the amazing experience other people made it out to be?
Have you ever had to pretend to be interested in someone in order to fit in?
Have you ever felt “broken” because you don’t experience sexual feelings like those around you?
Have you ever felt that you were straight “by default” or that you were bi or pan because you were equally (dis)interested in all genders?
Have you ever gone out with someone or had sex because you felt “that’s what you’re supposed to do?”
If you want to know if someone else is asexual, you have to talk to them about it. There are no outward signs of asexuality, and you shouldn’t attempt to label someone else against their will.

Well readers, I’m also sharing to you the video when David Jay, who is asexual (ace) sharing his struggle for being asexual. David Jay was born in April 24th 1982, he is an American asexual activist. Jay is the founder and webmaster of the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN).

Jay is from St. Louis, Missouri, and he graduated from Crossroads College Preparatory School in 2000. At the age of 15, Jay began considering himself asexual, and he came out as asexual while a student at Wesleyan University in Connecticut.

Frustrated with the lack of resources available regarding asexuality, Jay launched AVEN’s website in 2001. Since then, he has taken a leading role in the asexuality movement, appearing on multiple television shows, and being featured heavily in Arts Engine’s 2011 documentary (A) sexual.

AVEN, which Salon.com referred to as the “unofficial online headquarters” of the asexuality movement, is widely recognised as the largest online asexual community. Its two main goals are to create public acceptance and discussion about asexuality and to facilitate the growth of a large online asexual community. As of June 17, 2013, AVEN has nearly 70,000 registered members.

In New York City, working both with the Department of Education and private organizations, he’s been providing training on Ace inclusion to health educators.

He has a vision for a post-sex world, one that asks all of us to work on building a more empathetic, intimate society that celebrates any kind of close human relationship, whether or not it involves sex.

You also can try this asexual test:

https://lonerwolf.com/asexuality-test/

https://www.proprofs.com/quiz-school/personality/quizshow.php?title=so-you-think-youre-asexual&q=1

http://www.allthetests.com/quiz33/quiz/1468985189/Are-you-asexual

Thank you so much everyone for reading…

With Love,

Naomi Indah Sari

Source:

http://www.whatisasexuality.com/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Jay

Related Information:

Glossary — WhatIsAsexuality.com
Asexuality: A Brief Introduction — AsexualityArchive.com
Q & Ace — AsexualityArchive.com
Possible Signs of Asexuality — AsexualityArchive.com
Am I Ace? — WhatIsAsexuality.com

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