The Art of Letting Go


Bandung, February 21st 2017 

11:10pm 

Hi readers, since yesterday I felt so random about my feeling. I don’t why. But I realized that love was not what I expected, love was something beside me even I didn’t invite it, even I ignored it, even I didn’t like it. But when it was gone then I felt so lonely, so maybe that was a love. I was sick & couldn’t sleep while I was thinking about it. Love, life, philosophy, make me think more and over and over again. Believe me, I even cried. I’m so thankful because suddenly I realized it. 

Anyway, based on my feeling right now; I’m sharing you 3 different song lyrics titled “The Art of Letting You Go“.

The most favorite song & the best lyrics is The Art of Letting Go by Mikaila. The second song is The Art of Letting Go by Mariah Carey, and the last is Art of Letting You Go by Tori Kelly. 

You can search & watch the video clip on youtube if you want to… 

1. The Art of Letting Go by Mikaila

Put away the pictures, put away the memories

I put over and over through my tears

I’ve held them ’til I’m blind, they kept my hope alive

As if somehow that I’d keep you here

Once you believe in a love forever more

How do you leave it in a drawer

Now here it comes, the hardest part of all

Unchain my heart that’s holding on

How do I start to live my life alone

Guess I’m just learning, learning the art of letting go

Try to say it’s over, say the word good bye

But each time it catches in my throat

You’re still here in me and I can’t set you free

So I hold on to what I wanted most

Maybe someday we’ll be friends forever more

Wish I could open up that door

Watching us fade, what can I do

But try to make it through the pain

Of one more day without you

Where do I start to live my life alone

I guess I’m learning, only learning

Learning the art of letting go


2. The Art of Letting Go by Mariah Carey

I’m making a statement of my own opinion

Just a brief little reminder to help myself remember

I no longer live in your dominion (no, no, no, ooh)

You’re just trifling, nothing more than a liability

Get up and lay all your possessions

Outside the kitchen window right now

Letting go, letting go ain’t easy

Oh, it’s just exceedingly hurtful

‘Cause somebody you used to know

Is flinging your world around

And they watch, as you’re falling down, down

Falling down, baby

Evidently your words were merely lies

Reverberating in my ears

And the echo won’t subside

There’s a deep deep loss of hope

And the anger burns in me

I hope you don’t get no ideas ’bout re-uniting baby

‘Cause that’s the last thing I truly need

Your audacity is too much to be believed, so

Go to MiMi on your contacts, press delete

Baby letting go, baby letting go

Ain’t easy, easy

Baby letting go, baby letting go (woah)

Ain’t easy, Ain’t easy

Noooo

Baby letting go, it ain’t easy

‘Cause somebody you used to know

Is flinging your world around

And you know what?

They watch as you’re falling, as you’re falling

Down

Fall

It ain’t easy baby 


3. Art of Letting You Go by Tori Kelly

We were just little kids, we were ambiguous

My crush was serious, it’s crazy how

As we were growing up, I could just hit you up

But it just wasn’t love, I guess the stars

Never aligned for us, life just snuck up on us

You got a girlfriend and stuff, feelings are bottled up

Hide ’em in this song, take the key and lock it up

But when I see you again, no, I can’t even pretend

It’s always you I go back to; I know it’s danger

It’s always you my heart runs to, but I’m a stranger

Baby, what happened? What am I to do?

Wanna move on, but I’m scared of losing you

I can’t seem to master the art of letting you go

No, I can’t seem to master the art of letting you go

Try not to dwell on it, but sometimes I can’t help it,

So I paint pictures with it

Even when I was always on the road, I was always doing shows,

and my life was never slow, don’t you know

Your love stayed in the back of my head?

and a house full of memories is where I lived

Right when I came home, oh no, there I go

Saw you again and I can’t even pretend

Not letting you go

It’s just the art of letting you go

All of me, I give you everything

If you could only see how much you mean to me

I know you’ll always be the one that stays with me, haunting me

And maybe I’ll never know just how to let you go

I’m wishing that I could be happy with you

(Just the art of letting you go)

With you, with you, with you 

With love,
Naomi Indah Sari 
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10 Ways to Identify Negative People

Bandung, January 8th 2017 

01:30pm

Hi readers, today I visited another blog that I follow and found this article below. Being around with negative people is very exhausting. But well, we still need to hold our emotion sometimes. If we get mad because of them (negative people), it’s really not good for our emotion & mental health. So, right now I’m sharing this article about how  to identify negative people. Happy reading….


As you venture into becoming a new, more improved you in 2017, you should review the people in your circle. Let’s face it, relationships matter. Who we connect ourselves to matter. Relationships are so important that the Harvard Business Review wrote an article about the importance of relationships to one’s health and wellbeing, stating, “[studies] have linked disappointing or negative interactions with family and friends with poorer health (2010).” If relationships have an impact on your health and wellbeing, it is certain to say, you must be mindful when choosing the people in your circle. You cannot be great if you’re still holding onto a toxic person because as the saying goes, “one bad apple ruins the whole bunch.” It’s hard to be around negative people and not end up being negative. It’s hard being around gossiping people and not end up being a gossiper. It’s hard being around an abusive person and not end up being abused.

So, what am I saying here? Change your circle. You have too much to accomplish in 2017 to be around people who will bring you down. This is the year you should finally say yes to everything you’ve wanted to do. You don’t have time to be connected to the wrong people because those wrong people have a tendency to make you get off track. You need laser focus. It’s time to stop saying you want a different life and start doing it, therefore you will need a circle of relationships that will help you accomplish your goals. The people in your relationships should hold you accountable and encourage you to get to the finish line while you’re encouraging them to do the same.

To help you identify toxic relationships in your life, here are 10 characteristics of the people who are normally toxic to your health, wellbeing, and goals:

1. They’re always gossiping: People who are always gossiping eventually will gossip about you. Normally, when people gossip, they are putting people down, something you don’t have time for because you’re trying to be a better you. You don’t have time to compare yourself to anyone else. As Eleanor Roosevelt stated, “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” Do you want to be a small-minded person or great-minded?

2. They are rarely on the giving end:Most toxic people attempt to find ways to use you. Do you notice that a person in your circle never helps you or gives you anything, but you’re always giving tirelessly to them? Get rid of them.

3. They never seem to be genuinely happy for you when you share a win:No matter how many small or great things you share about doing something positive or finishing a goal, a toxic person is never genuinely happy for you. They may act like they’re happy, but you can feel the disingenuousness radiating from their congratulating remarks. They may even congratulate you but then turn the conversation to something else because your win is really not something they want to discuss.

4. They abuse you, physically or mentally: Um, big one here. People who care about or love you will not abuse you, physically or mentally. Enough said!

5. They attempt to control who you can communicate with: The control freak has an immature attitude. Because they no longer talk to someone, they don’t like for you to talk to them. Excuse me, but adults are allowed to communicate with whomever they wish. Again, no time for such immature behavior.

6. They do not like opposing opinions: For the toxic person, you better not offer an opposing opinion to theirs. How dare you not feel how they feel about a particular individual or situation? Why would you not agree with them? Perhaps because you have a brain and the ability to think and reason as you please?? Besides, who wants a friend who always agrees with them? If I’m in the wrong, please tell me. Friends should not allow friends to go down the wrong path. We cannot control the friend’s final actions, but we can express concern for them. Also, if my website or business idea is silly, please tell me and explain why you feel that way.

7. They’re always the victim: Haveyou ever met someone who never seems to like anyone because the people they don’t like have always done them wrong? The victimized toxic person always has a story of why they don’t like a person, and whatever happened is never their fault. The victim never takes responsibility for anything!

8. When they give, it’s out of expectation to receive: This infamous giver may appear to be a giving individual; however, they’re giving is really out of expectation to receive. If they give you a Christmas card, you better give them one too. Who cares about giving out of the kindness of your heart with this person?

9. They’re overall a negative person:You try to have hope for the negative person, but no matter how much light you shine, their darkness prevails. The negative person always tells you what you can’t do or how dumb your idea is. It’s ok to have an opposing opinion, but to always tell me I can’t do something is an issue. They tell you you can’t go to college because no one in your family ever went. You can’t start a business because you’re broke. You can’t work on Wall Street because you filed bankruptcy. Our mistakes are what help us to learn lessons and to become a better person, so if someone is telling you why you can’t do something, examine the reason they are telling you. On the journey to greatness, you really don’t have time for someone to be telling you you can’t do something, whether big or small. You’ll never know unless you try, right?

10. They seem to want to hold you back: This toxic individual may subtly attempt to hold you back. You may not notice it at first, but then you think about all the times you’ve been distracted by them when you’re doing something to better yourself. What you’re doing isn’t important to them or they just may be afraid you will leave them behind. A good friend will not be afraid, but will cheer you along as they are on the same journey to achieving their goal. People who genuinely care about you understand there is enough goodness in the universe for everyone to win if they try.


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Toxic People

Gresik, East Java, December 27th 2016. 

05:40pm 

Hi readers, on my blog before I shared an article about “how to deal with negative people”. Today I’m sharing you an article from another blog that I follow about the strategies to deal with toxic people. Actually negative people and toxic people are similar. Both are same. Negative people bring toxic to our lives, that’s why we call them toxic people. 

Happy reading…

Being around toxic people has a negative impact on us, Especially if it’s a co-worker,family member or spouse. Without these difficult relationships I wouldn’t know the appropriate way to approach them without conflict. But, What defines a toxic person? I actually don’t think the person is toxic but more of their attitude and behavior toward our relationship is toxic. Common behavior includes:

  • Causing drama in their lives or surrounded bystanders.
  • Using others only when it benefits them.
  • Manipulating people.
  • Overly judgemental of people.
  • Belittling everyone.

It’s important to realize that we all play a role in interacting with toxic people, We’ll either diffuse the situation or add more fuel to the fire.You only control you, Trying to change others is near impossible. The only thing we can do is provide support or learn to forgive them for their behavior.

It’s crucial to notice the signs of you being affected by a toxic person, If you can’t define the effect it is having on your mind and body it will be difficult to stop.

Here’s some of the signs if you have a toxic person effecting your life:

  • You feel bad/ashamed.
  • Your more emotional than before.
  • Your Exhausted/Angry easily.
  • You rather be alone than with loved ones.

So what can you do to stop this toxic person? I have to admit it isn’t easy. However, with hardwork and dedication it can be done. Here are some of the strategies I use while dealing with a toxic person.

Don’t Explain Yourself | You don’t need to justify yourself, Saying the word No is a strong response on its own. You don’t need to make excuses or explain yourself to someone whose goal is to misunderstand you. If you simply just can do it, Say no and walk away to avoid confrontation.

Have Control | You don’t have to participate in arguments that you get invited into. Creating conflict is the number one thing a toxic person loves to do, It makes them feel noticed and important, Don’t react to them – it’s called being mature. Learning control saves you energy for something that truly matters.
Practice Sympathy | Being understanding and compassionate of a persons situation helps build the toxic relationship up. We don’t know why this person behaves this way, We can still be respectful without the unnecessary comments. Everyone has something positive about themselves, Find out what their is and see if a positive conversation starts from there.

Honest Chat | Rise above the situation. Try connecting with them in a sensitive way, If you can reach a place where you can pull them to the side and have a chat – then do it. Find something that can have that person talking, And change the subject to something related. If it doesn’t work, Avoid an argument. Remember rise above.

Forgive Them | If you have exhausted all your options to try to help the situation, Wipe your hands of the situation and move on. Forgiveness does not mean you accept their behavior, It simply mean your not going to try to help them change their bad mood. It’s about inner strength. Walking away knowing you tried is all you need. 

Set Boundaries | You weren’t born to please people, And toxic people are twice as hard to please which makes you want to try harder, compromise more and trying harder to keep the peace. No longer tolerate their mess. Trust your judgement even if everyone thinks it’s right or wrong!

You deserve to be around people that makes you happy and feel uplifted, who support and encourage you and directs you towards your goals. Never settle for less than you deserve.

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Gay’s Problem

Gresik, East Java, December 27th 2016. 

05:20 pm 

Hi readers, Today I reblog an article from another blog that I follow. How interesting when I’m imagining Harrisson from USA & Farid from Iran being connected & fall in love to each other. I don’t know if this story is true or not, but it would be awesome if there will be someone who create it into film. :mrgreen:  

Happy reading….

Note to Neighbors: Visitors & Guest:

A special republication in light of Orlando. However, as this tragedy touches and will become the subject of multiple topics of discussion, thepublicblogger will publish a rare political opinion piece in the upcoming days. – Thank You

 

Son Got Angry After Seeing Men Kissing in Miami – Father of Orlando Shooter

“We are apologizing for the whole incident. We weren’t aware of any action he was taking. We are in shock, like the whole country.” – statement by  Omar Mateen’s Father

Mississippi USA & somewhere in Iran

Harrison never really thought about it much, but the conservatives who ran the state just sealed the deal. Similar to several other states, Mississippi had just passed a gay marriage ban, by an overwhelming majority of 86%, a final insult to a long list of injuries. He was only 18 and still lived at home. He had never had a boyfriend and was still a virgin, never loving a man or a woman. He grew up in a two parent home. Devout Baptist, full of fire and brimstone. He loved his parents, and he enjoyed the choir at church. Harrison’s faith in God was absolute, but every Sunday felt like torture, as the minister seemed to zero in on him.

On the other side of the world, in distance, culture and ideology, Farid had just sat down, now staring at his computer screen. He knew what he was doing was risky, for the Ayatollah of Iran had just ordered surveillance, crackdowns and in some cases, all out bans on internet use. But the lure of seeing his American friend, was much too strong for him to care. Homosexuality was strictly forbidden in his country: punishable, by hanging till dead. He was still not comfortable with who he was, and in fact, never would be. He would blame Allah for giving him a burden that was too heavy for him to carry. Although he never ventured into the underground, hearing stories of other men who were like him, but expressing themselves in both loving and carnal fashion. But through the wonders of social media, he had found a boy who was also his friend. They would video call one another, first once a week, than as often as they could. The ten hour time difference made communication a challenge, but it was one they both were up to.  When the computer was off, they felt sad and empty, neither understood or knew the reason why, but Harrison and Farid, had fallen in love.

 

The problem with gay lies in one very complex word….truth. By definition the word appears elementary, but consort your most trusted dictionary and you will understand what I mean. I tend to shy away from presenting definitions, preferring my word usage to define itself. But an exception in this case is needed, so that on the issue of truth, our varied, polarized, condemning and similar ideologies, understandings, opinions and beliefs on homosexuality, can be viewed through the same lense, if only for a moment, before we return to the safety of the familiar. But let us remain here for just a little longer. Be us Jews or Gentiles, Muslims or Hindus, Buddhist or Atheists, Straight or Gay, for or against, let us read the definition with clarity, open minds and hearts in an attempt to gain full awareness of the meaning of truth, and the complexity it assures, even when there is the best intent.

from dictionary.com – truth

  1. the true or actual state of a matter: 
  2. conformity with fact or reality
  3. a verified or indisputable fact, proposition, principle, or the like:
    mathematical truth
  4. the state or character of being true.
  5. actuality or actual existence.

One of the core beliefs and most used statements by non-accepting heterosexuals is that being gay is a choice. And even though I can state with almost near certainty, that while one may come to accept, embrace and become proud of the person they are, few if any will declare, “If there had been a choice from the beginning, I would have chosen to be gay”. But whether it is arrogance or simply choosing to protect our trusted beliefs, there is a mindset in some of us, that ignores the truth coming directly out of the individual who is not only living it, but has absolutely no reason to lie, since for many, being gay has been the source of hardship, self-hate, abuse and like in present day Uganda, humiliation and death. Yet we ignore all of this, and still hold on to our truths, telling our brothers and sisters that, “The choice was yours to make”.

Truth is complex. With few absolute exceptions, mathematics being one and that the sky is blue, the other, what is truth to me may not be truth to you, but both maintain validity if our truths are based on beliefs. During our formative years, our ideas, dreams and beliefs change often. But at some point in each of our lives, we are accepting and comfortable and perhaps rigid, or set in our ways. And no amount of scientific data will conform a devout parishioner, nor will a single verse from the Holy Bible, convert an evolutionist into a Catholic. So do we escape to our imagined glass castles, built high upon  a pedestal, and shout down to the masses, “You are all wrong, because only I know the truth!” Or do we revisit the definition, and search for goodness and kindness in each other – reaching out for commonality – or do we allow our differences in philosophies to give us permission, to judge your truth as lies.


Pulse Photo, from Getty Images * Nightclub in Orlando Florida (Pride March Photo, Unknown Origin)


 

 Those who condemn gay marriage,
yet are silent or indifferent to the breakdown of marriage and divorce,
are, in my view, missing the real issue.
– Malcolm Turnbull

It’s a very sad life. It’s part of Satan, I think, to say that this is gay. – Michelle Bachmann

The first time, they took their shirts off, the voices denouncing their being, that each had heard all of their young lives, made them shameful of what they were doing, even though separated by miles and an ocean, and only viewing one another through a computer, they quickly pulled their shirts back on. But time had passed and they made peace with love and desire. One held onto his God, but rejected the notion that he was doomed. The other denounced his Religion, still believing, in the teachings, but his truth, was that God had forsaken him. 

The fires of passion begin burning, as they talked and laughed in darkened rooms. But when silence had come over them, they realized both were now nude. Harrison spoke first saying, “I love you”. Farid instantly followed suit. They reached a hand out to touch the computer, imagining how the other’s touch would feel. But before they could make the final connection, Farid’s door was kicked open with force. Screams of disgust and condemnation came from the multitude of government and spiritual troopers. They surrounded him, scoffing at his nakedness. One soldier looked at Harrison in the computer screen, muttered a mix of  homophobic jargon, before smashing the computer to the ground. The last thing Harrison would remember, as it all became a blur, is hearing Farid’s scream… as they drug him out of the room.

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Another Christmas History

​Kudus, Central Java, December 24th 2016

00:45 

This is another christmas history… 
Merry Christmas everyone….

By: Matthew Vibbert

Do you know anything about the history of Christmas? The Squire spent some time looking into some of the traditional elements of Christmas.  As we all know, Christmas is a religious holiday and is celebrated around the world. It has been celebrated since the birth of Jesus.  However, there may be some details about the origins of the holiday with which our readers are not familiar.  Thanks to the History Channel, The Squire is here to give you all the details you need to be a Christmas history expert. 

People in Germany honored the god Oden in the mid-winter. In places such as Europe, the mid-winter time was perfect since most of the cattle were already dead so they didn’t need to feed them during this time. During earlier years of Christianity, Easter was the widely celebrated holiday before the birth of Jesus.

Originally, Christmas wasn’t celebrated at all. The celebration of Christmas was widely spread, but many still considered Easter and Epiphany as more important holidays. Christmas wasn’t a federal holiday up until 1870 which it was then celebrated in every country.

Christmas was originally celebrated as the birth of Jesus, but there is no evidence that Jesus was actually born on December 25. It is thought of that churches chose December 25 to try and adopt and absorb the tradition of Saturnalia, which is a month where slaves would become masters and peasants would run the cities and schools and other businesses were closed so that anybody was able to enjoy the month as well. Also, during this time, food and drinks were plentiful for the full month. This was something that was celebrated throughout Rome.

Once, while Oliver Cromwell took the throne in Europe, he had cancelled Christmas. People of England had wanted Charles II back in the throne which, by popular demand, had happened. Once he had regained his throne, Christmas, was once again, a holiday in England.  Christmas has actually been cancelled before in America as well.  From 1659 to 1681 Christmas had actually been outlawed in Boston. Captain John Smith had reported, after the incident of Christmas being outlawed, that Christmas was enjoyed by all people and was passed shortly after.

Through the years, the American culture of Christmas had adapted other cultures as well such as, decorating the tree, sending Christmas cards, and giving gifts. Most people had adapted into the new, re-invented Christmas, and the holiday was meant to grow the nation. 

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Christmas’ History Revealed – http://wp.me/p63hYn-CL

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Christmas History

​Kudus, Central Java, December 24th 2016.

00:35 am 

Hi readers, actually I’m feeling so sleepy right now; but I can’t sleep straight away; so I’m sharing to you the article below about the history of Christmas. 

Happy reading & merry Christmas….

From time to time much is made of “keeping Christ in Christmas.” The interesting thing is, for four centuries Christians didn’t celebrate Christ’s birth. In fact, to this day no one is sure what date or even what year Christ was born.

Many people speculate that His birth likely occurred in the spring rather than in winter because the shepherds were staying out in the field. But Judea is in the Mediterranean climate zone. Their temperatures would likely have been akin to Southern California, and therefore mild by the standards of those in a northern region. Certainly the colder nights wouldn’t rule out the possibility that Jesus was born in the winter, but we have no evidence one way or the other.

As to the year, the Romans didn’t start numbering their calendar AD 1 because they heard rumors of a new king born in Judea. The system of numbering years before or after Christ’s birth came much later, devised by a monk named Dionysius Exiguus in the sixth century. Based on his calculations, then, the years following the date he assigned to Jesus’s birth began from 1 forward.

However, historical and Biblical scholarship suggest that Jesus was actually born some two to seven years earlier, depending on which of several questionable dates a person accepts. The process requires taking context clues in the Bible and reconciling them with known historical data. However, the “known historical data” isn’t always precise, and in some instances it’s contradictory.

For example, the Bible clearly states that Jesus was born in the days of Herod the king (Matt. 2:1). History doesn’t agree when precisely Herod died. If he died in BC 4 as many scholars have thought, then clearly Jesus had to be born earlier—perhaps two or three years earlier since the magi may have seen the birth star the night Jesus was born, then began their trip that may have taken as long as two year.

The point is, we don’t have a precise date. Scholars have looked at the calculations of a number of early church leaders who mostly suggest Jesus was born between BC 2 and BC 3. But the point I want to make here is, Christ’s birth was not something the early church thought was so significant that they needed to mark the day and institute a celebration.

Nowhere in the Bible is any mention of celebrating Christ’s birth.

What Jesus Himself instituted was the commemoration of His death with the celebration of communion.

The Bible is pretty big on commemorations, though, which means, God is big on commemorations. He instituted several key feasts and celebrations—holy convocations—the Jews were required to celebrate: Passover, Pentecost, Tabernacles. There were daily worship activities and weekly ones. There were commemorative stones, and a celebration that required the people to build booths they lived in for a week. On and on God gave His people objects and events intended to remind them of Him and their relationship to Him.

So no surprise that Jesus, upon establishing the New Covenant, instituted the celebration, the commemoration, of His death.

But what about His birth?

I certainly don’t think God would forbid believers to set aside a day as “Jesus’s birthday,” but He also did not command us to keep such a day. How then did the Church create the tradition of celebrating Christmas?

Apparently in the fourth century in Europe (before Dionysius Exiguus had made his calculation—or miscalculation—about the year of Jesus’s birth), Pope Julius I chose December 25 as the official day to celebrate the Advent. His reasons seem to have involved bringing people into the church and taming some of the raucous pagan celebrations that occurred in December.

The middle of winter was a time of celebration in various places around the world, some because of the winter solstice, some as part of worship of a pagan god. For instance, in Germany the honored Oden and in Rome, Saturn.

The early Church was most likely affected by Saturnalia, a four week period of raucous hedonism in celebration of Saturn. Also around this time the Romans held a festival celebrating children, and another one to celebrate the birthday of Mithra, “the god of the unconquerable sun . . . For some Romans, Mithra’s birthday was the most sacred day of the year” (“History of Christmas“).

The establishment of Christmas, then, seems to have been a “Christian version” of the pagan festivities. The practice spread. By the end of the 8th century the celebration of Christmas had found its way as far north as Scandinavia.

Not until the seventeenth century—after the Reformation—did Christmas take on the religious nature Christians generally associate it with today.

No surprise, then, that the culture has worked hard to reclaim what was once theirs.

I’ve thought more about the merging of the religious with the secular of late, in part because of my reading in I and II Kings. Compromise was the watch word of those years. Worship, God, sure, but also worship Baal and Molech and the Ashtoreth and Chemosh. Sacrifice to Yahweh in the temple, but to Baal on the high places.

The path of Israel’s departure from God is a litany of disobedient acts, prompted by a desire to be like the nations around them.

Human nature being what it is, we shouldn’t be surprised, then, that today professing Christians are moving toward our culture in our behavior, more than we are moving toward God in a desire to be holy because He is Holy (see 1 Peter 1).

We see it in Christmas. We shouldn’t expect our culture to celebrate Christmas the way believers do, but we’ve been handed an opportunity to make Christ known.

If we’re obnoxious and demanding and short-tempered, or if we see Christmas as another excuse for a party, how are we different from that which we’re not to conform ourselves to? But if we live according to the Spirit who dwells in us, the world can learn of God’s patience and love and forgiveness.

And our celebration can go down deeper. We can proclaim the name of Jesus, God Incarnate, God with us, God Who left His throne to reveal Himself to us, that we might be born again. There’s a gift worth giving away. 

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Shakespeare Vs Donald Trump

Bandung, November 24th 2016

06:00pm

I copied this article from another blog that I follow. Haven’t heard about Shakespeare for so long, and this article is interesting.

Happy reading….😁

I’ve been preoccupied with two people this year. The first, of course, is William Shakespeare. The other, alack, is Donald Trump.

I’ve avoided writing about the latter. It’s not that I don’t see the man everywhere in Shakespeare’s plays. I see him in Richard III’s Machiavellian machinations. In Richard II’s incompetence, overreach, and rashness. I see him in Iago’s Janus-faced manipulations. In Timon of Athen’s extreme egotism. In the glib sexual presumption of Falstaff as he appears in The Merry Wives of Windsor.

It’s that I’ve wanted to keep the two separated. Maybe because I’ve felt the connections were too pat, that discussing today’s politics would be such an obvious, unoriginal move. Maybe because I haven’t wanted to talk about him – because he’s all we ever talk about anymore.

You don’t get to ruin Shakespeare, too, damnit.

Or maybe it’s because, in spite of my efforts to make sense of my mundane life in 2016, I’ve ended up seeking escape in the Bard, trying to locate, somehow, even my self-divulging, self-indulging reflections in a kind of sacrosanct timelessness I want unsullied by the small, groping, orange hands of the 45th president of the United States. You don’t get to ruin Shakespeare, too, damnit.

But if there’s one thing I’ve learned from Shakespeare, it’s that all politics is personal.

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I’m shocked. I’m angry. I’m scared. I’m eager for action – no,  this middle-class white guy isn’t pretending this essay on Shakespeare makes a meaningful difference. But I’m also longing to understand. To understand my country. To understand people I know – family, for God’s sake – who cast their vote for a bigot. To understand “what happened,” as we’ve been widely referring to Trump’s election.

And it’s this “what happened” that I’ve been stuck on when it comes to Trump and Shakespeare. “What happened?” we ask, bewildered, when Othello kills Desdemona. “How the hell did this happen?” we ask when Lear cradles a dead Cordelia. “Why in God’s name did we end up here?” when ask, beholding Macbeth’s bloodbath. “What happened?” millions of America’s are asking, dazed and gobsmacked, since November 9. The aftermath all seems so unlikely, so improbable, so dramatic. Too dramatic. Laughably dramatic.

What Leontes wreaks is catastrophic, but his original sin is all too ordinary.

Like in The Winter’s Tale. In this romance play, Leontes, King of Sicilia, sees his wife, Hermione, innocently clasp hands with his lifelong friend and King of Bohemia, Polixenes. He becomes paranoid. He silences his advisers. He plots to kill Polixenes. He imprisons his wife, who is pregnant and gives birth while jailed. He wants the newborn burned until deciding to have her abandoned in the wilderness. And, oh my, the ways he talks about women: hagharlotcallathobby-horse,thing. (I’d like to say I’m fishing for Trumpian comparisons here, but no. It’s all there.) And Leontes causes so much terror and stress it ends up killing Leontes’ dear son and Hermione.

How did this happen?

The events are so hyperbolic that we tend to attribute it to larger-than-life personalities and passions, to outsized faults and flaws. Celebrities and Shakespearean villains – they’re just not like us. But we confound the outcome with the cause. What Leontes wreaks is catastrophic, but his original sin is all too ordinary: “I have too much believed mine own suspicion,” Leontes plainly sums it when he first reckons with the death of his wife and son (3.2.149).

Shakespeare, in that extraordinary way the playwright takes us into that interior stage of the mind, lets us glimpse how ‘it happened’ for Leontes. As he works himself up into a frenzy, Leontes rampages:

…Is whispering nothing?
Is leaning cheek to cheek? Is meeting noses?
Kissing with inside lip? Stopping the career
Of laughter with a sigh? – a note infallible
Of breaking honesty. Horsing foot on foot?
Skulking in corners? Wishing clocks more swift,
Hours minutes, noon midnight? And all eyes
Blind with the pin and web but theirs, theirs only,
That would be unseen be wicked? Is this nothing?
Why then the world and all that’s in’t is nothing,
The covering sky is nothing, Bohemia is nothing,
My wife is nothing, nor nothing have these nothings
If this be nothing. (1.2.286-98)

What happened? How did we get here? It was a whisper. It was nothing.

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We read Shakespeare, we often say, because of how profoundly he probes and depicts human nature. We try to distill his characters down to raw elements: jealousy, ambition, power, hesitation, arrogance, suspicion. Yes, these, but I think Shakespeare ultimately strikes a deeper vein: irrationality.

It seems Shakespeare had something in common with the Founding Fathers: a belief in self-government, and just how radical an experiment it really is.

We, as humans, like to think we’re rational actors. That we make decisions based on the best available evidence. That we weigh choices based on risk and reward. Which is why Shakespeare’s Lears and Macbeths and Leontes evoke so much outrage, pity, and pathos. Why wouldn’t Lear just listen to what Cordelia was saying to him? Why did Macbeth carry out his assassinations in spite of his persistent moral reservations? How could Leontes let his suspicions get so out of hand and so quickly? If only they could see what they were doing, all the suffering, all the loss, all the grief, all the blood and gore would have been avoided. I would never act like that, we tell ourselves as Lear roves the heath and Macbeth talks to imaginary daggers. This is not what I would have done, we say as Leontes, foaming with self-feeding, despotic jealousy, justifies his anger.

Which is precisely why Shakespeare’s tragic figures are so horrifying. Because we do act like them. Because we’re irrational. We turn petty grievances into catastrophes. We let slights fester into disease. We take revenge on others because we are small, broken, needy beings. All for appearing right, to be recognized, not thinking ahead to, and never actually really wanting, the wreckage our egos leave in their wake. We feel guilty when we finally get what we say we want.

As Paulina, Hermione’s faithful attendant, stands up to Leontes:

…Thy tyranny, together working with thy jealousies –
Fancies too weak for boys, too green and idle
For girls of nine – O think, what they have done,
And the run made indeed, stark mad, for all
Thy bygone fooleries were but spices of it. (3.2.177-82).

We’re Leontes, ruled by the petty, childish tyrannies of our unreason – and our blind insistence otherwise – that bemonsters, Hulk-like and Hyde-like, whispers into so much woe. It seems Shakespeare had something in common with the Founding Fathers: a belief in self-government, and just how radical an experiment it really is.

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Leontes repents. Sixteen years later, magically, it turns out his baby daughter, Perdita, had survived and was raised by a shepherd in Bohemia, where Polixenes’ son, Florizel, has fallen in love with her. But Polixenes will not have his son marry some country girl and responds with all the tyrannical violence of Leontes. The lovers flee to Sicilia, where Leontes reunites with his daughter and discovers Paulina, Hermione’s attendant, has been keeping the queen alive as a statue all this time.

It’s romantic idea, America, but is it a Romance play, where what’s lost is found, what’s divided is reunited? America’s going to need some repentance. It’s going to need some time. It’s going to need a whole lot of self-government, and that starts with checking our inner, irrational autocrats.

Some fairy-tale magic wouldn’t hurt, either. “It is required / You do awake your faith,” Paulina tells Leontes’ court when Hermione’s statue comes alive (5.3.94-95). But we should remember that while Leontes cried in the chapel everyday for 16 years, Paulina was attending to the statue of her Queen every day. That doesn’t just take faith. It takes commitment  and discipline – which require self-government.

And it’s not lost on me that the person who stands up to the tyrant, who puts in the work, is a woman.

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Shakespeare, Trump, and radical experiments of self-government: The Winter’s Tale – http://wp.me/p76JYn-z1

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